Through The Eyes Of A Child

I had the most fun and relaxing day babysitting​ for a friend (shout out!) today.

I was really reminded of the beautifully simplistic rythym of life. Children get it, man.

I would like to share with you a beautiful song by Aurora that resonates with today. My favorite line is “I would rather feel alive with a child like soul”.

Thank you little one for a wonderfully alive day!

If the Buddha Dated

A friend of mine shared a book with me to help in some changes I am making regarding my romantic relationship. It is called “If the Buddha Dated: Finding Love On A Spiritual Path”. There are lots of questions asked and many prompts to sit down with a pencil and paper to answer them. Truthfully. In doing so I realized I have never really thought much about what I want in a partner. One of the exercises has you make a mock personals ad based around what you want, and another has you make one based around negative things you think about yourself. So, for perspective, I will be sharing both of them below. I used to think this kind of stuff was silly, and this doesn’t mean I’m joining Tinder, but I’ve learned a lot about myself by being honest with myself (no matter how silly). I recommend it!

Regular Personals Ad:

30 year old woman with a great sense of humor and adventurous spirit seeks partner to laugh and have fun with! Preferably dark and handsome with a humble spirit and conciousness about the world and issues. A lovely partner, lover and friend all around 🙂

Negative Personals Ad:

Fearful 30 year old woman unsure of what to do with herself or life. Anxious, somewhat annoying, very stubborn and quite aggressive in her opinions. Sad and fed up with being ill, but unable to move forward because of it. Sees that as an excuse.

You Are Alone

You are alone

In this world

Despite living

With many others

You tiptoe around

Each other

Waiting your turn

To emerge

From the bedroom

You are alone

In this world

Despite being together

You tiptoe around

Each other

Barely embracing

You are alone

In this world

Despite traveling

With a million others

You close your eyes

Tight 

Enough to be

Transported 

You are alone 

In that world

As well

Bad Ass Book List

Let’s take a moment to acknowledge the beauty that is the public library. I read a lot, and without access to free books I don’t think I would be able to do so. The opportunity for anyone, at any age, to learn about pretty much anything is life changing. Here is a list of some bad ass books I recently read courtesy of the public library, in handy subcategories, with links!

Feminism:

How to be a Woman by Caitlin Moran – An amazing take on what feminism actually means. Skeptical? Then take this quiz from the book:

“So here is the quick way of working out if you’re a feminist. Put your hand in your pants.
a) Do you have a vagina? and
b) Do you want to be in charge of it?
If you said ‘yes’ to both, then congratulations! You’re a feminist.”

Moranifesto by Caitlin Moran – In this most recent collection of columns from The Times writer, we get a fantastic read on a broad spectrum of topics. From misogyny on the internet, to Benedict Cumberbatch, Syria, how the Oscars are evil, wind energy and of course, her very own manifesto.

Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay – In this collection of essays, Roxane points out that it’s totally OK to suck at feminism sometimes, because at least we’re trying.

Punk Rock:

M Train by Patti Smith – My guiding light, Patti, invites us into her life of cowpoke dreams, a beloved cafe, routine solitude and detective shows. I loved this world so much I was sad when I finished it in a few days. I have since read it again.

Girls to the Front: The True Story of the Riot Grrrl Revolution by Sara Marcus – Music would not be where it is today without the women and girls of the Riot Grrrl movement. I bow to them whilst loudly playing my electric guitar.

Memoir:

Just Kids by Patti Smith – The story of Patti’s beautiful relationship with Robert Mapplethorpe in 1960s and 1970s New York City. â€śI imagined myself as Frida to Diego, both muse and maker. I dreamed of meeting an artist to love and support and work with side by side.”

Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood by Trevor Noah – There can be only one man on my list, and that man is Trevor! In his first book, the comedian tells us about his early life of being born during Apartheid in South Africa to a black mother and white father. It is a wonderful story about identity, solitude, the power of language and loving your mother. He grew up to be a really great human.

Fiction:

How to Build a Girl by Caitlin Moran – The first novel from my love Caitlin was slightly inspired by her own British working class upbringing, and very nearly makes me want to go back to being 16. It is a true inspiration at any age, really, about being yourself and having a bit of fun along the way. “You must go out and find books and poetry and pop songs and bad heroes—and build yourself.”

Awareness:

Zero Waste Home: The Ultimate Guide to Simplifying Your Life by Reducing Your Waste by Bea Johnson – When I’m not smashing the patriarchy, I’m trying to protect the environment. Actually, I do both of these things all the time, every day, with every ounce of my being. Bea has helped me become further aware of the problem of waste and how to change it. Yes, we can all make a difference! It starts with you.